Companionship or Compatibility?

I have recently begun to wonder which is more important:
Companionship or Compatibility. When our search for another person is driven enough, what are we willing to sacrifice within ourselves in order to achieve a compatible healthy relationship? There is a certain amount of give and take to any coexistence between two people. One might ignore an annoying trait within a partner because, on the whole, the partner is a good fit, so to speak. But when does it become too much. When do we start to ignore large glaring, perhaps negative, personality traits for the sake of companionship?

The world, or rather society, teaches us that it is good to be self reliant, self sufficient, self sustaining...Without need of another person. I feel this view is unrealistic and unkind. Though no person should be completely reliant on another (excluding children, people with mental incapacity, etc.) it should be a normal feeling to want to share the everyday mundane with another person. This need to be completely unneeding of any other entity is unnatural. Most cultures throughout history have acknowledged the need for human companionship in one form or another. People grouped together in tribes, villages, communes, even cults in order to maintain human contact. Those who were outcast or chose isolation in one form or another, often had emotional and mental repercussions.

Perhaps it is Valentines Day that makes me think this way. Singlehood looming over many of us makes this holiday feel like a farce and a depressing tradition. How do those of us that are not connected with a companion deal with the world at large on days such as these? Days that put into keen focus the dichotomy that society pushes on all of us. Be self reliant but not alone.
This in itself has made me realize that to be human is to want a companion. But while I may want a companion I have realized I am not willing to give up on the ideal of compatibility. I deserve, we all deserve, to be accepted for who we are and to have a person that we accept whole heartedly. The need to have a companion should not outweigh the need for compatibility within a companion.

Loneliness

Can there be true loneliness? How does a person define the act of being lonely. Without other people? Without interaction of intelligent or otherwise emotional viewpoints from another living being...This I cannot conceive.
Certain events in a persons life can lead to a sense of loneliness. The death of a loved one or a separation from another can give a person a feeling of being lonely.
I have heard people say, at one time or another, that they can feel lonely in a room packed with people. The idea of loneliness is confusing and hard to wrap ones mind around.

Consider the option then, that loneliness is a particular longing for one exact person or persons. The feeling of aloneness that comes from yearning for one person only. Seeing it this way, why do we long for that one person? What purpose or fulfillment came only from that person and that person only? How is it that with all these people around us everywhere we go, some of us remain feeling a sense of loss.

Perhaps then, one can try to reset or reboot their thinking. How to be without the people that cause the feelings of loneliness. Learing to be complete, or at least at home, in oneself without others may be a cure to this lonely feeling.

Then again, there is nothing rational and logical about human emotion. Love, anger, lust, loneliness...These cannot be rationalized. Instead, we try to remain normal(whatever that may be) and continue on to bigger and better things...But that in itself brings into focus another feeling without boundaries. Hope.

The Course

Everything in life is on a direct course to something. Sometimes the course may be twisty and full of road blocks, making the course difficult to find, but it is always direct. The focus for the future is and has always been tenuous and blocked by the here and now, feeding the course of life with obstacles and events that may confuse and discourage a soul. Without a challenge, and perhaps a dose of pain, we may never fully appreciate the path that we are on and how we became the people we are. This is life. Life is painful and difficult to look upon at times forcing the bravest of souls to cower under its overwhelming might. We live on.
This is what we all must continue to learn.

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